To start of my series on Love, let me take you to the Bible’s book of love. The Song of Songs written by Solomon.
“Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you
by the gazelles and by the does of the field:Do not arouse or awaken loveuntil it so desires.”
Song of Songs 2:7
The book of Song of songs is a poetic book that is written in theatrical form it may come up with many interpretations but for me the best picture is that the poem commends the shepherd and the maiden for their devoted love to one another, the maiden is praised for guarding her virtue and her virginity against all the advances of Solomon,because she is saving herself for the one she loves and wants to marry. Yet sexual love is also commended and celebrated in the poem as a gift from God to be celebrated and to praise Him for in the context of marriage.
That more than the love of a man betrothed to me, the gift of love that God gives is a one-to-one love that leaves room for no substitutes; just as the maiden and the shepherd’s love for one another was so strong, that there was no room for her or him to even consider another. The love of my shepherd is more than enough for me.
Two years ago I wrote a post entitled confessions of a no boyfriend since birth and yes after two years this lady is still a no boyfriend since birth well those two years have changed this lady and from getting debut invites now I have more wedding invitations to attend. I’ve grown older and yes finally I only have a term left before graduation yay! I will be a hypocrite to say that getting into a romantic relationship never crossed my mind because it does its normal but something that I thank God for is that the same mindset two years back has never changed and in those two years God has allowed me to grow in His love and be more like Him. And I want to share those things especially to the young single women like me.
We live in a generation where everything is just a push of a button, internet on our fingertips, instant noodles and fast lanes. In this fast paced world, most of us don’t appreciate the idea of waiting; often times we get irritated when we wait in line or in train station. Humanly speaking, who wants to wait if we can get things done in a snap? As I came across this particular Thai movie, named crazy little thing called love it amazes me how it captured the idea of waiting and true love, unlike most movies nowadays where characters become impulsive and rush into love…ending in heartbreak. As I went on to reflect in this movie I can connect it with the love of God for us.
I’m turning 20 next month, and most of my friends and even colleagues would ask me many times (to the point na di pa ba kayo nagsasawa magtanong) why I don’t have nor never had a boyfriend coz in this world people would assume that in this age one SHOULD already or at least tried having one.
I wrote this because I hope this would inspire young women just like me to wait, and not jump into a relationship headfirst that would only break your heart and cause heart aches. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not an anti-relationship kind of person. There are loads of couples that I truly admire :”> I hopelessly romantic person and dreams of my Prince Charming a.k.a. GB (God’s Best).
Above all else I wanted to pursue being a woman after God’s own heart just like King David (I know he’s a man but still…) in the Psalms that he wrote, it reflects how intimate His relationship is with the Lord and I want to become someone like that.
I don’t want to get into a relationship just because I needed someone to complete me,rather I wanted to get into a relationship because I am ready to be part of that’s person’s life and him be part of mine. I thank God and those people who have been with me through the years who guided me and loved me unconditionally. I also had my fair share of insecurities especially in High School when most of my girl friends would have boyfriends and have dates on Valentines Day and receive giant teddy bears but because God has already fill in that part of my heart that longs to be loved I am satisfied with Him alone. What He did on the cross is more than enough for me.
At this point in my life, what I am praying for is for God to work through me and let me grow into a woman just like in Proverbs 31.