Two years ago I wrote a post entitled confessions of a no boyfriend since birth and yes after two years this lady is still a no boyfriend since birth well those two years have changed this lady and from getting debut invites now I have more wedding invitations to attend. I’ve grown older and yes finally I only have a term left before graduation yay! I will be a hypocrite to say that getting into a romantic relationship never crossed my mind because it does its normal but something that I thank God for is that the same mindset two years back has never changed and in those two years God has allowed me to grow in His love and be more like Him. And I want to share those things especially to the young single women like me.
God has made you in His own image and likenessI know most ladies feels that when someone is not pursuing you, you think you are not pretty enough or you are unattractive. But God says otherwise,
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
Every single aspect of your body, even your imperfections are created by God in His own image and likeness. There is nothing to be insecure about yourself, media has changed the way see themselves by dictating how women should look and most of the time women are objectified by these concepts. As a woman you should never change your appearance just to noticed by men. For example, wearing skimpy clothes to attract men. oh noes that’s a big no no my lady. Doing so only gives a wrong impression to the opposite gender and as a woman after God’s heart your God’s best or the man that God has design just for you won’t be attracted by the sight of your legs but your heart for the Lord.
His plans are perfect only when we trust Him
Many times, we compare our love story to those that we see in the movies. Boy meets girls falls in love at first sight sparks starts to fly then started dating then kissed under the moonlight then boom that’s love. But if we surrender your hearts to God and let Him write your love story it will be a love story you could never imagine.
Sometimes, you also feel that we do not deserve to be loved or you are not good enough for the love of another person. Maybe, you are scarred by your past mistakes or past struggles.Always think that in God you are already complete and there is nothing in this world that will make Him love you less.
So you also are complete through your union with Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority.
I remembered one of my friends asking me, (knowing that I never had a boyfriend and what I stand for) What if the person that God will me is someone who is no longer pure and have made mistakes in the past?. It had me at a long pause, because when I was younger I had this notion of GB is being perfect like a prince charming super holy and all but that statement made me ponder. It led me to , Hebrews 10:14 “For by that one offering he forever made perfect those who are being made holy.” pondering on this verse reminded me the grace of Jesus that He demonstrated through the cross, that no matter how dirty or what you have done in the past once you accepted Him in your life He has already made you perfect and blameless. Your past struggles does define you because you have a new identity in Christ.
Same goes for your God’s Best, whatever past mistakes that you have done before Jesus waived that already and your God will also give your God’s best the grace to accept and understand those things and vise versa.
One thing that I also thank God for is surrounding me with people who are helping me in this exciting season of waiting and that is my parents, my D12 (Discipleship Group) and Iron Saints(Dance Ministry). These people are helping me by being accountable in my walk with God and instead of having idle time I use this season to serve Him vibrantly.
I encourage singles out there to use this stage in your life to be fruitful both in your walk with God and in your chosen career because when you think about it you get to spend almost your whole life getting married let’s say you get married at 27 and live till 75 so do the math. Take time to spend more time with your family, I remembered my dad telling me that he is getting used to the fact that its just him and my mom who goes out on a weekend because 4 or 5 years from now mostly I will be having my life and family.
At this season of my life, I praise God that because of His grace and strength He allowed me to trust His leading especially in this area of my life. I can honestly say that I am perfectly happy being single why? Because I have experienced His perfect love in my life. No words can explain that feeling of being so in love with God that there is nothing that can satisfy you more than Him. Doing so requires trusting the Lord and letting go of your ways and giving Him full control over your life. His strength will enable us to wait and asked what I look for I only have two answers. A man who loves the Lord more than he loves me and a man whom I can partner in a ministry to bring glory to God.Singleness is a blessing, and it takes so much maturity to handle it.Be blooming and beautiful lady!
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